Is it Fair?

I had a conversation with a colleague the other day about a date she recently had. She called it,"the date from hell". The first thing she said when I asked her why it was so bad was, "girl he was so dumb, just dumb". I proceeded to listen to her talk about the experience, and early on I realized that some of the justifications for her date's "dumbness" seemed a little unfair. I will not go into all of the details, but basically she didn't like the fact that he said he only ate "American" food, but wanted pizza, kept looking at his phone, and had little to say, although she said he expressed in the beginning that he was very shy. She also laughed at him when he told her he moved here to get his PhD because he decided to "try it out"....

As it turns out, I know the guy she went on the date with...(not a big shocker considering I live in a small city with an even smaller Black community), and I don't think he is dumb at all, in fact I had a class with him this semester. I do know his personality to be very different from hers. He is introverted and very shy. In fact, it took half the semester and me speaking and attempting to establish conversations with him for us to even really talk. Could it be that he is not dumb at all and that she was just being a little unfair?

The point of this is simply because it made me wonder about my own judgments of recent dates I've had....I haven't really enjoyed any of them, and I have made some judgments about the guys based on these dates. Listening to her made me wonder if I have been a little unfair, and this has made me wonder if I am expecting too much too soon, or too much in general? I am not exactly sure yet, but I know I will give more of a chance in the future, as well as be more open-minded about the overall experiences.