Seasons Change

I remember back several years ago when I was dating this guy. He and I had a decent "relationship" though it was never exclusive or monogamous. It lasted for about 5-7 months or so (I cannot really remember) but if just sort of phased out. It came to mind yesterday because I thought about my relationships with others (friends, romantic, family etc) and it made me think of something he said when he and I stopped dating, "Everything in life has a season, and I guess we can mutually agree that ours has passed". And just like that....it was. The crazy thing (and I believe most others would think it crazy) was that it wasn't a bad breakup or anything. We just kind of came to a point where we were too busy for one another, feelings had changed, and he wanted to be with someone else. No big deal at all, in fact I still communicate with him every now and then.

Lately, I have been thinking about all of my relationships. Not just romantic but all kinds, and I wonder if our seasons are changing in several of mine. "A mind that has been stretched by a new idea or concept can never go back to its original dimensions"- this is one of my favorite quotes and I feel that it applies to where I am at this point in my life. There are many things that are not definite for me, but my personal growth has been continual and I feel it is coming into play in many relationships. The way that I see life and my place in it has changed, my purpose has changed and though I hate to say that I have "out grown" certain people and certain relationships, but I am starting to believe that I have. And on the other end of the spectrum, some have "outgrown" me as well. It is a two way street and I believe that in the near future some of us with pass one another. My only concern is that I am a person who thrives on the cultivation of deep, meaningful relationships, so to lose those altogether hurts a little.

Some will just change, I may not communicate with those people as often as in the past, but our relationships will not end, and for others....our season is simply passing. It is not a good idea to hold on. I think I need to let go...... It is spring, no need to keep wearing sweaters, boots and a coat!